fostering and or adopting...humans this time :)

[chaseswife]

I am so happy for you! You are amazing for giving her a loving home and family for however long you get to keep her.

 

[lismar79]

That's so exciting! What are the chances of birth parents giving up custody?

At this point one is in jail and the other is on the run..... an aunt might come forward but we shall have to wait and see.

 

[Prairie Mom]

At this point one is in jail and the other is on the run..... .

ugh...poor baby girl! I'm glad you guys can provide her with some loving stability.

an aunt might come forward but we shall have to wait and see.

I pray that what is best for everyone involved will take place. Please keep us posted and CONGRATS again to joining the WHACKY WORLD of PARENTING!

 

[4jean]

Congratulations!! I am so happy for you! I have fostered newborns too. Just relax and enjoy the moment. Hold her as much as you can and know that your loving touch is giving her the best start in life. Even the middle of the night feedings are offering her such stability and security. Keep us posted!

 

[Yellow Turtle01]

I haven't checked in in a while... Congratulations!! I really hope this works out for you guys! Does she have a name?

 

[bullanddoser1]

My husband and I do foster care in NM. We have 2 adopted and have had 6 kids in our home. If is so rewording and fun. I love my kids more than anything and adoption is amazing

 

[stojanovski92113]

Just read through your thread...Congrats to you and your husband! How wonderful of you two to take in kids that need a good home! I wish you guys the very best

 

[lismar79]

I haven't checked in in a while... Congratulations!! I really hope this works out for you guys! Does she have a name?

Ava

 

[Yellow Turtle01]

Ava

That's such a pretty name ! Congrats to you and your husband, I hope Ava settles in nicely

 

[bullanddoser1]

Thanks all! Mostly what we struggle with is how do we choose, I feel kinda awful looking at these listings knowing they all need a home. The other big one is, how to you help them adjust. We have taken the classes but its all pretty vauge. I have read a million books, blogs, and talk to friends with bio kids but we are in a program were these kids are coming out of bad situations so its not going to be easy we know. We are ready, don't get me wrong, but I guess it just does not hurt to ask for more advice

can't adjust perfectly. They are very resilient secondary to the life experiences they already had. all you can do is remind them that they are safe and that they are loved. dependent on the age group that you accept will depend on the struggles that you will endure. people always think that young children do the best, they do in some aspects but another aspect is a lot more difficult. it is also dependent on the situation they came from. Some of our children where severely abused others came from drug homes.
My husband is a cop and just him coming home from work was traumatizing to our children. in their little mind please officers meant we had to go away or that their parents / guardian we're in trouble. They are not a sign of pertection.
I would be more then happy to talk with you in greater detail privately. Please fill free to email me. [email protected]

 

[lismar79]

can't adjust perfectly. They are very resilient secondary to the life experiences they already had. all you can do is remind them that they are safe and that they are loved. dependent on the age group that you accept will depend on the struggles that you will endure. people always think that young children do the best, they do in some aspects but another aspect is a lot more difficult. it is also dependent on the situation they came from. Some of our children where severely abused others came from drug homes.
My husband is a cop and just him coming home from work was traumatizing to our children. in their little mind please officers meant we had to go away or that their parents / guardian we're in trouble. They are not a sign of pertection.
I would be more then happy to talk with you in greater detail privately. Please fill free to email me. [email protected]

Thank you for that!

 

[lismar79]

Just an update,
We have our lil foster daughter for 4 months now, so far she is healthy and happy. Mom is still in a treatment type jail and is soon to be out. Dad has failed a few drug test and has yet to see her since she was removed at a month old. Other than the constant worry of loosing her, this is by far the best thing I have done with my life. There is nothing greater (to me) than watching her grow and develope
Our next court date is in aug so mom has until then to stay clean and get her crap together.....this is her 5th child she has lost.....

 

[stojanovski92113]

Just an update,
We have our lil foster daughter for 4 months now, so far she is healthy and happy. Mom is still in a treatment type jail and is soon to be out. Dad has failed a few drug test and has yet to see her since she was removed at a month old. Other than the constant worry of loosing her, this is by far the best thing I have done with my life. There is nothing greater (to me) than watching her grow and develope
Our next court date is in aug so mom has until then to stay clean and get her crap together.....this is her 5th child she has lost.....

You are an amazing person!! So happy to hear the great news It's so sad to hear of stories about drugs, alcohol & babies, it doesn't mix or make any sense I work with cognitively impaired children and adults. We have a few fetal alcohol syndrome kids that were adopted by a wonderful family. In fact I believe they are all siblings. There is 5 of them, they are really special kids.

 

[lismar79]

She was (is) fortunate to not have any lingering effects from the drug abuse. We work with an agency called help me grow and they are really pleased with how far she has come

 

[4jean]

I have been thinking of you and wondering how things were going since your last post❤️. So happy for you. My family does short term interim care for moms who need time to decide about adoption. We just had a sweet baby girl for two weeks last month. It is such a gift to get a newborn from the hospital and be able to provide her with tons of love. Every time it is gut wrenching to send them on..even though I know it's short term! I will keep you in my prayers each day. I am truly impressed that you are strong and brave enough to bring this baby girl into your home not knowing what the future holds. Give that sweet girl a snuggle from my family to yours. Keep us posted.

 

[lismar79]

I have been thinking of you and wondering how things were going since your last post❤️. So happy for you. My family does short term interim care for moms who need time to decide about adoption. We just had a sweet baby girl for two weeks last month. It is such a gift to get a newborn from the hospital and be able to provide her with tons of love. Every time it is gut wrenching to send them on..even though I know it's short term! I will keep you in my prayers each day. I am truly impressed that you are strong and brave enough to bring this baby girl into your home not knowing what the future holds. Give that sweet girl a snuggle from my family to yours. Keep us posted.

Thanks for kind words and prayers

 

[TortsNTurtles]

We got a placement today! A tough cute lil baby girl born with drugs in her system. She's a fighter though! 4 weeks old and we just got back from the dr a bit ago! Excited and scared but feeling pretty blessed to be part of her journey!

I am so happy for you. This is great what you are doing. You are blessed. Enjoy the journey they grow too fast.

 

[Jacqui]

Wonderful that things have worked out so far. Do you think you would ever want to add another child to the mix?

 

[lismar79]

Wonderful that things have worked out so far. Do you think you would ever want to add another child to the mix?

For sure, we want at least two to three. I probably will not do another infant though because of the long waiting process to find out if you will even get custody but an older child that is available for adoption would be a welcomed blessing.

 

[lismar79]

We got a call late last week and confirmed today that we have been matched to start the adoption process with a six year old girl 2 hours away we are very excited to meet her!