well....to start let me say that i have been married for almost 12 yrs, and have never had a honeymoon/vacation with my husband. So basically we are supposed to take a cruise this coming November as part of a 1/2 family reunion 1/2 anniversary/honeymoon trip. Well my husband informs me that he wants to go to the Philippines to visit his dad who is 76. stating that this might be the last time he would get to see him...so I understand that.
However, we have NEVER been anywhere together. He has went to the Philippines 3 times since we have been married, and i have never went. Initially we were going to go to the Philippines together, however my husband made a comment that I should ask my Best friend to go with us so I have a "companion" while I am visiting so I am not "alone"...Now get this...He will be doing things with his brothers and friends that involves alot of drinking, and **** fights, and other guy stuff. Well frankly my feelings are hurt that he would take me to a strange country where I dont speak the language and basically have me fend for myself!!
So i informed him that I will NOT be going. I dont think it is fair that he always gets his way and I have to put everything I want on the back burner. So I will just go on the cruise myself..which is 4 days and his trip will be 1 month.
do you think I am being childish about not going?..or do you think he is being selfish?
However, we have NEVER been anywhere together. He has went to the Philippines 3 times since we have been married, and i have never went. Initially we were going to go to the Philippines together, however my husband made a comment that I should ask my Best friend to go with us so I have a "companion" while I am visiting so I am not "alone"...Now get this...He will be doing things with his brothers and friends that involves alot of drinking, and **** fights, and other guy stuff. Well frankly my feelings are hurt that he would take me to a strange country where I dont speak the language and basically have me fend for myself!!
So i informed him that I will NOT be going. I dont think it is fair that he always gets his way and I have to put everything I want on the back burner. So I will just go on the cruise myself..which is 4 days and his trip will be 1 month.
do you think I am being childish about not going?..or do you think he is being selfish?