Tom said:Men cheat for the same variety of reasons that women cheat. Because they are not getting their needs met by their current partner, and they lack the strength of character or strength of will to do the right thing. This "having your needs met" concept can be different things to different people. Sometimes there are substantial, valid deficiencies, but other times the most arbitrary reasons are cited, basically as an excuse. Either way, cheating is never okay. If your needs are not being met, whatever they are, then the relationship should be ended, so you are free to go your own way with a clear conscience. Often the legal system, children and serious financial concerns are enough to deter people from ending a relationship that really should be ended. I don't find this to be a valid excuse, but it does explain some things that were previously difficult for me to understand.
I totally understand people who don't want to commit or be tied down. No problem with that, just don't promise to be faithful to someone. On the other hand, if you do promise, then simply don't cheat.
Thank you Harris, I appreciate your kind words. Ones I really need right now.harris said:I'm sorry you're going through this Vishnu. Your head has to be spinning right now. I wish you nothing but the best of luck getting through it.
emysemys said:I don't think the male human animal was meant to be monogamous. I believe it takes quite a bit of will power to resist if the temptation is put in front of him.